OUR CATHOLIC PERSPECTIVE
Catholic tradition has always recognized the unity of the human person in body and spirit. It is the whole person who is uniquely created by God with intellect and freedom of will, who is called to friendship with God through faith in Jesus Christ, and who is formed in holiness through a life of virtue and participation in the Sacraments of the Church. Because of the interconnection of physical and spiritual attributes in the person, human health depends on the right ordering of both the body and the soul. This includes, of course, one’s emotional life and desires. Our Lord tells us that if some part of our body causes us to sin, we would be better off not to have that part. This suggests that it is not the health of the body that leads to salvation, but rather the right ordering of one’s relationship to God. Though we may think that such an ordering depends only on spiritual qualities, such as one’s strength of faith, it also owes a great deal to one’s mental health. Having compulsive tendencies or a distorted view of reality (among other possible problems) can severely diminish a person’s ability to perceive and respond to God’s call.
Sexual relations have always been an arena in which the disorder and confusion of our fallen state make themselves obvious. The secularization of our time has deprived many people of sound doctrine, either because they were not raised with it, because it was not reinforced by the surrounding culture, or for other reasons. Our public discourse resounds with statements about sexual behavior that are troubling, if not alarming, to people of faith. In some cases, these statements are made by people who simply do not know better, and are ignorant through no fault of their own. Perhaps they were raised to believe falsehoods, or were never evangelized properly (or at all). In other cases, these statements are made by people who know better, but are morally compromised and, rather than repent of their ways, reject authority and guiltily seek to justify themselves. In other cases, one may hear these statements from those who consciences have been all but deadened, and whose view of reality is upside-down: sexual sin, for them, appears genuinely right.
Whatever the cause of these views, the views themselves must be rejected inasmuch as they fail to conform to the truth about human sexuality that is passed down from revelation and confirmed by science.
The human body was created to be a gift fully expressed in exclusive marital union that is open to new life. Our psychology and bodily chemistry is built for relationship. Whenever we have sex, our bodies produce hormones that lead women to bond with their partner and lead men to be protective. When sexual activity occurs within a stable and loving marriage, these biochemical processes strengthen the relationship. When people have sex without such a commitment, however, it leads to jealousy, hurt feelings, and a diminished sense of self-worth, as the biochemical processes have no reliable object.
Mature sexuality involves freedom from lust, abstinence until marriage, continence when not having sex with one’s spouse, and total self-giving in the spousal relationship (including during sex).
- Lust is the desire for sexual gratification without regard for the purpose and meaning of sexual activity. Typically, this disregard takes the form of an attitude that makes pleasure the highest good in sex and fails to acknowledge or abide by its true goods: unity of spouses and the procreation of new life.
- Abstinence is the avoidance of sexual activity in recognition that one is not in the proper relationship to engage in it, the proper relationship being the married state.
- Continence is the avoidance of sexual activity in marriage at times when either spouse is not prepared to have sex. The cultivation of this virtue is an essential part of a healthy relationship, by which both spouses can respect one another’s needs and maintain the purity of their union.
- Total self-giving is the dedication of spouses to serving one another selflessly: that is, without thought of what is to be gained for oneself. This includes such things as tending to one another’s needs, providing comfort and pleasure (including sexual pleasure), and generally desiring the other’s good---always within the limits of moral behavior.
No one needs pornography or masturbation in order to be sexually healthy. The effort to relate to other people, whether one is single or married, is difficult and can take considerable effort. Yet the rewards of good friendships and a good marriage are the most satisfying things in life, which fulfill us at our deepest levels and open us to greater opportunities for growth and maturity. By contrast, the fleeting pleasure of masturbation is limiting and isolating, and closes one off from others.
Reasons Not to Use Pornography
- Pornography use destroys relationships.
- Pornography use is part of a disordered lifestyle.
- Pornography use is addictive and can fuel antisocial or criminal behavior in its users.
- Pornography degrades the people it depicts, who in most cases are women.
- Pornography is psychologically and socially isolating.
- Pornography use can lead men to objectify women in their lives, including coworkers, friends, or their own daughters.
- Pornography use undermines trust in marriages.
- Pornography use makes the user’s spouse feel like a sex object, not a loved human being.
- The production of pornography is connected to organized crime and the exploitation of women and children.
- Pornography is consistently found in the possession of arrested sex criminals and serial killers.
What is pornography?
The word pornography comes from a Greek phrase meaning “writing about prostitutes.” Pornography is essentially a consumer product whose aim is to create sexual arousal on demand. As with soliciting a prostitute, using pornography to gratify lust is a way of enjoying the pleasure of sexual activity without having to accommodate the needs of one’s spouse or anyone else. It takes many forms: electronic images, video clips or films, magazines, printed writings, audio recordings, chat room messages, telephone calls. What unites these varied forms of media is the desire on the part of those who created them to titillate their consumers. Yet many things that were not intended to arouse, such as a catalog of ordinary clothing worn by models, can nonetheless have that effect. Those who have a problem with lust may return to those things repeatedly as they would to more explicit material. In this way, the sexually addicted person essentially turns innocuous materials into pornography by using them to get aroused when he wishes.
Why do people use pornography?
People use pornography to fuel sexual fantasies, during which they most often masturbate to orgasm. The biochemical effect of orgasm on the brain is similar to the experience of taking a cocktail of stimulant, sedative, and narcotic (pain-killing) drugs simultaneously. Thus orgasm is a powerful reinforcer for the behaviors leading to it, and makes it very likely that anyone who masturbates will do so again. Those who become dependent tend to use it as a form of reward or a way to soothe their anxieties, much like a drug addict uses a drug.
Many psychologists consider compulsive masturbation to pornography a form of sexual addiction or compulsive sexual behavior. In some cases, addicts may be individuals who are socially isolated due to their living conditions, disability, shyness, or other problems that cause them difficulty in forming relationships that would lead to marriage. In other cases, they may be individuals who are married or in sexual relationships but are under intense pressure, have extreme anxieties, or are undergoing conflicts with their spouses that lead them to seek other sexual outlets.
Internet pornography is especially appealing to many because of its three qualities of accessibility, affordability, and anonymity---what psychologists call the “Triple-A Engine” that drives internet pornography consumption. Because it is ubiquitous, internet pornography is easy to find and often difficult to avoid. Though it can lead to enormous expenditures (as well as secondary costs such as lost productivity at work) among those who become addicted to it, internet pornography is inexpensive and often free. And because it allows the user considerable control over his identity and self-presentation, it tends to be a private activity. On account of these factors, internet pornography and masturbation may simply become temptations that, despite one’s best efforts, one is unable to resist. This becomes especially likely in a society such as ours, in which advertising and entertainment media use the techniques of seduction in order to gain market share for their products.
What is wrong about pornography?
There are several levels at which one can criticize pornography. In the first place, even if no one ever viewed pornography, the values it contains as a cultural artifact are false and contemptible. Before he was elected pope, John Paul II once described pornography as “a marked tendency to accentuate the sexual element when reproducing the human body or human love in a work of art, with the object of inducing the reader or viewer to believe that sexual values are the only real values of the person, and that love is nothing more than the experience, individual or shared, of those values alone.” (1994, p. 192) The view he described is a distorted one, which not only overemphasizes sexiness to the neglect of other human characteristics, but also presents another human being as a simple object without an inner life. That view is also wrong about love, which is properly not about gaining pleasure from another person, but rather is about willing the good of another person. Thus pornography, as a representation of human beings and a statement about the nature of love, denies the dignity that is rightfully each person’s as an intelligent and free child of God.
On account of the values contained in pornography, which its creators attempt to transmit to those who consume it, any contact with it exposes a person to ideas that are false and misleading. Because those ideas are imbedded in imagery or other media and often not explicit, however, it is easy to absorb them without realizing it. Thus, even if one were to view or hear pornography without being aroused by it (or participating in it), one would be exposing oneself to an intellectual and spiritual hazard. As a matter of formation, one should avoid exposure to pornography even in a detached way, as it is neither enriching nor edifying. Morally speaking, in many cases willingly looking at or hearing pornographic media would constitute either the venial sin of voluntary exposure to temptation, or that of failure to avoid a near occasion of sin, and would need to be confessed to a priest.
Even though pornography is objectionable in itself and corrupting even to observe, its most serious problem lies in its association with masturbation. Masturbation has, since biblical times, been considered gravely immoral, and in Catholic doctrine can be a mortal sin. [discuss here distinction from Fr. Harvey’s article between the seriousness of a behavior and the culpability of the actor] By separating sexual activity from its natural purposes of unity between spouses and procreation, masturbation is radically contrary to God’s plan for the human body and human relationships. It closes the person in on his own fantasy world, creating a preoccupation that impedes relational intimacy, and prevents him from growing in virtue through the self-mastery of continence. A person who masturbates will not be able to grow spiritually. Fr. Benedict Groeschel writes:
Growth as a Christian or, indeed, as a sincere believer of any kind, requires a constant effort. It involves an endless attempt to purify motives, improve behavior, use potentials more effectively, and become more and more sensitive to the rights of others….St. John’s Gospel most dramatically relates the moral law to the spiritual life with the relentless message, “If you love Me, keep My commandments” (Jn. 14:15). [Spiritual Passages, p. 106]
What does pornography use do to a person?
Research prior to the advent of the internet found that exposure to standard, non-violent, commonly available pornography is linked to the following effects:
- Increased callousness toward women
- Trivialization of rape as a criminal offense
- Distorted perceptions about sexuality
- Increased appetite for more deviant and bizarre types of pornography
- Devaluation of the importance of monogamy
- Decreased satisfaction with partner’s sexual performance, affection, and physical appearance
- Doubts about the value of marriage
- Decreased desire to have children
- Viewing non-monogamous relationships as normal and natural behavior
"Source: Manning, 2006"
A major meta-analysis (statistical combination of separate research results) of 46 studies found the following risks associated with exposure to pornography:
- 31% increase in risk of sexual deviancy
- 22% increase in risk of sexual perpetration (i.e., sex crime)
- 20% increase in risk of experiencing difficulty in intimate relationships
- 31% increase in risk of accepting myths about rape (e.g., that women enjoy it)
"Source: Oddone-Paolucci, Genuis & Violato, 2000"
In one study (Schneider, 2000), use of internet pornography accompanied by masturbation was present in 100% of cases of couples among whom an online addiction of some sort had led to marital separation or divorce.
An informal survey at a 2002 convention of the American Association of Matrimonial Lawyers found that 62% of those present (who represented the top 1600 divorce lawyers in the country) stated that the internet had played a role in divorces they had litigated in the preceding year. (Manning, 2006)
People who masturbate compulsively, like other addicts, tend to experience cycles of “sobriety” or abstinence and bingeing. Whenever they succumb to their compulsion, it can lead them to experience guilt and self-loathing, as they feel they are weak, corrupt, and worthless. For a time, they try to abstain, often in the face of severe temptation, out of a sense of determination to take control of their lives. Eventually, however, the guilt and temptation overpower them, and they seek solace in the one thing that brings them pleasure: the very behavior to which they are addicted.
“Blessed are the pure of heart, for they shall see God.”
What does pornography use do to couples?In one study of the spouses of cybersex addicts:
- 68% of those surveyed reported decreased sexual intimacy with their spouse.
- In 52% of those surveyed, the addicted spouse lost interest in relational sex after using internet pornography
- In 18% of the couples surveyed, both partners had lost interest in relational sex
The following recurrent themes appear in relationships in which one partner is addicted to pornography:
- The user makes excuses to avoid sexual intimacy with the partner
- The partner feels hurt, angry, sexually rejected, inadequate, and unable to compete with computer images and sexy online models who are willing to do “anything”
- When having partner sex, the pornography addict appears distant, emotionally detached, and interested only in his or her own pleasure
- The non-addicted party initiates most or all of the relational sex, either to get her own needs met, or to try to tear the addicted partner away from his internet activities
- The addicted party blames his partner for his sexual problems
- The addicted party wants his partner to participate in sexual activities that she finds objectionable or uncomfortable
"Source: Schneider, 2000"
What does pornography use do to children and adolescents?
Young people’s experiences of internet pornography are often negative:
- Young people are often exposed to pornographic material, sexual solicitation, and online sexual harassment against their will.
- Many young people are upset or disgusted by sexual material they encounter online.
- In one study, when asked to describe a significant youthful experience of sexual media, college students cited more than twice as many negative as positive emotions associated with the experience.
A study of internet chat room communications identified several negative influences on the development of youth exposed to this medium:
- Disinhibition in sexuality, aggression, and race relations
- Early sexual priming (awareness of and preoccupation with sex)
- Modeling of racism, misogyny, and “homophobia”
- Breeding of personal and social irresponsibility due to anonymity
Risks associated with youth exposed to erotica:
- Normalization of adverse reactions to offensive material [Is this bad?]
- Developing tolerance toward sexually explicit material, so that increasingly novel or bizarre material is needed to maintain the same level of interest
- Misperceptions of exaggerated sexual activity in the general populace
- Overestimating the prevalence of sexual practices such as group sex, bestiality, and sadomasochism
- Diminished trust in intimate partners
- Abandoning the goal of sexual exclusivity with a partner
- Perceiving promiscuity as a normal state of interaction
- Perceiving sexual inactivity as constituting a health risk
- Developing cynical attitudes about love
- Believing superior sexual satisfaction is attainable without having affection for one’s partner
- Believing marriage is sexually confining
- Believing that having children and raising a family is an unattractive prospect
- Developing a negative body image, especially for women
- Increased risk of developing sexual compulsions or addiction
- Increased risk of exposure to “incorrect” information about human sexual behavior (e.g., bestiality, pedophilia) [By what standard of conduct is the term “incorrect” used only to describe these examples?]
- Exposure to age-inappropriate sexual material [One should ask here whether this assumes that erotica is ever “age-appropriate,” or is simply a way of avoiding judgment on adult consumption of erotica]
A Swedish study of high school students found the following results:
- 83% of those questioned watched pornography at home
- 71% believed that pornography influences other people’s sexual behavior
- 29% reported that pornography had influenced their own sexual behavior; a prior Swedish study found that 53% of young men claimed that pornography had inspired their own sexual behavior
- Males who were considered high consumers of pornography, as well as men who had their first sexual intercourse prior to age fifteen, were more likely to engage in oral, anal, or group sex than men considered low consumers, or than women.
- Engaging in anal intercourse was found to be significantly associated with high pornography consumption.
- Engaging in sexual intercourse with a friend (non-intimate) was found to be significantly associated with high pornography consumption.
An Australian study examined the case information for children (under 10 years old) admitted to a Child at Risk Assessment Unit in Canberra, Australia for exhibiting sexually abusive or aggressive behavior. In addition to noting a more than 23-fold increase in the number of children admitted between the early 1990s and 2003 (a period coinciding with the advent of widespread internet use), the researchers also observed that almost all of the children had accessed the internet for pornographic material.
Children living in a home with a sexually compulsive or addictive parent can experience the following negative effects:
- Decreased parental time and attention, both from the parent who is using pornography, and from the other parent who is preoccupied with the user
- Encountering pornographic material a parent has acquired
- Encountering a parent masturbating
- Overhearing a parent engaged in phone sex
- Increased risk of parental separation and divorce
- Increased risk of parental job loss and financial strain
- Increased risk of consuming pornography themselves
- Exposure to the objectification of human beings, especially women
- Witnessing and/or being involved in parental conflict
- Witnessing and/or experiencing stress in the home related to online sexual activities
- Parent-child dialogue about sex before the child is developmentally ready or the parent is prepared
- Feelings of anger, embarrassment, fear, guilt, or confusion caused by carrying the secret knowledge of a parent’s problem, even when the parent does not realize the child knows about it
"Source: Manning, 2006"